Magnetic Personality

Magnetic Personality

Make Them Smile
As I mentioned before, smiling at others is an important way to have a positive impact on people but I suggest a better approach is to try to make others smile. Some of you are saying, "But I'm not funny." That's fine. Making someone laugh is great but the truth is you don't have to make them laugh in order to be an effective people person, but you do have to make them smile. You don't have to be funny but you do have to be fun. You don't have to be able to tell jokes but you do need to know how to take a joke.

Being an easy going person who can make others smile is a priceless people skill that can make a world of difference in your daily relationships. The best way I know to make others smile is to talk about topics where there are opportunities to have fun. Usually when I’m around people, I love talking about their past experiences and future expectations. Rarely will I bring up bad politics or a tragedy that happened in the news. Where is that going?

Did they go on a trip recently where something funny happened? Ask them about it. Did you see a funny video on YouTube that made you laugh? Share it with them. I love drawing on the positive experiences that people have had. The exchange of funny stories and positive happenings are priceless. It is almost impossible for you to leave a negative (or even a neutral) impression on someone if you spent some time together having fun and talking about positive things.

More Ways to be a People Person

There are so many characteristics of an effective people person. With a few adjustments in your behavior and the way you react to others, you will begin to see the changes in the way others react to you. Try one of these techniques for 7 days and you will see how much of a difference it will make.

Make others feel important-Most people are so concerned with how they are perceived that they spend most of their time making themselves look important. That really stems from being insecure. The people who are truly confident at socializing have learned that taking your eyes off of yourself is the best way to get a positive reaction out of people.

Be willing to help- Watch for opportunities to help others every day. At work, school, or even if you see someone that needs help at the grocery store, offer you services somehow. The trick is not to ask them if they need help. Try just helping them out. Taking the initiative shows more genuineness in the act. Asking, “can I help you with that?” or “would you like me to..?” makes it seem more like you are obligated to assist them. When the opportunity arises to help someone, make the move.

Be interested in their interests- When trying to connect with people in a positive way it is best start with their interest. There are two major reasons why this is important. First you learn more about the person you are talking to. This is very important is you are in sales. You cannot make a sale until you understand who you are selling to. It is also important in social situations. You cannot build rapport with someone until you understand who you are talking to.

The second reason this is important is because this is a way to make others feel important. When you converse with someone about their interest, you build an understanding about the person and that person develops a bond with you because you have allowed them to share some of what is important to them with you. Win-Win.

Positive Paradigms (Leave them feeling better than when you found them.)-For some strange reason, humans love to dwell on the negative. The news is negative, celebrity gossip is negative, and when you hear co-workers talk about their jobs, family, or situations, it’s usually (you guessed it) negative. It’s easy to think about the bad things that happen in life because the good things are seen as unrealistic. But as a people person, you must learn to make others feel good by influencing them in a positive way.